The Apple Watch allowed me to capture a precious memory from my mother who was declared brain dead due to Intracranial Hematoma
*copied my post text from my other post in r/AppleWatch. [Original post](https://reddit.com/r/AppleWatch/comments/jq2vnh/the_apple_watch_allowed_me_to_capture_a_precious/)
So my mom has been battling leukemia for two years. After relapsing earlier this year she had lost much of her hope until my father passed away two weeks ago. She saw how we mourned and suffered for his loss and she decided to keep fighting so that she can live to see our milestones.
Well, yesterday my mom was doing small things around the house because she tries to keep active. She began having a small headache which got worse and worse every few minutes. What happened after was traumatic for me so I won’t go into detail but she went limp and got taken away in an ambulance.
When she arrived they found a blood clot in her brain and told us they needed to either medicate her or perform surgery to open up her skull for the brain swelling. Due to the leukemia the doctors thought it would be best to transfer her to another hospital that specializes in cancer and can perform the surgery.
When the new hospital received her they ran a scan on her brain and found no brain activity anymore. She still breathes and has a pulse, but the mind is gone.
When I visited her I paired the Apple Watch to her phone and placed it on her wrist, tears streaming down my face. I then went to messages and sent myself a heartbeat message. So I can always have her heartbeat with me.
I love you forever mom. Thank you Apple for letting me capture such a precious moment.
EDIT: Thank you all so much for your love and support. I’m crying right now because my mom was my world to me. We had been looking for a house to buy because my mom’s dream was to have a house we could all live in and be happy after my dad sold our original house and kicked us out. The day before the life-changing “headache” occurred, we had taken her to a house that looked similar albeit smaller than our original. She was so happy that she sat on the couches in the house viewing and said she liked it. We made an offer with me, my sister, and my
Mom as signers. With the my mom’s condition no expecting to get better, we have had to pull her from the signing and we are praying they accept the offer we put in for the house, as it was the last one she liked before her accident.
My remaining family (sister and I) do not want to live in our current apartment anymore as we have experienced so much tragedy here. Several of our dogs died in the five years we’ve been here. This year our youngest pup was eaten by coyotes, my father passed away just a few weeks ago, and now my mother will most likely according to the neurologists.
Thank you all so much for your support and any advice for getting through this emotionally, spiritually, or legally is appreciated.
I posted some pictures in the comments
EDIT 2: For those of you with parents who are still kicking. ***Please*** tell them often how much you love them! They may know it, but it never hurts to hear it. One moment they are there and the next moment they could be gone. My mother fought leukemia for ***two years*** and in ***one hour*** yesterday she was gone.
Like a commenter here said, being able to see a loved one off in their final moments is truly a privilege and a gift. One that many do not get the opportunity to do. In my case I wasn’t able to tell my mom how much I loved her. When she was suffering with her headache she told me she loved me and my sister, but because I didn’t want to scare her I said “I know, but you’re going to be fine.” She was not fine and I feel guilt that I did not hug her and tell her everything that I did when she was already brain dead.
EDIT 3: Thank you for the awards everyone, I’ve never gotten gold let alone platinum my entire time on Reddit. I wish it was under better circumstances but it means a lot to me thank you.
I tried sleeping last night and kept waking up in cold sweats. I haven’t had this since I was high school. My mom would put a t shirt on my pillow so I wouldn’t get it wet and I tried that tonight.
I also have her dog sleeping with me in my room. She used to sleep with my mom but I just couldn’t leave her alone and so I put her bed in my room. She’s very old but I hope she lives for many years since my mom loved her very much.
I wish with all my heart I could show my mom your love and support. To show her people can be compassionate for others they don’t even know. I never thought this would blow up like this because I had planned to post this as a way of venting what was happening to my sister and I. It’s comforting having all your thoughts and prayers with us. I will show my sister this when I get the chance. For now I will try to get some more sleep.
UPDATE: Neurologist just called. My mother’s condition has gotten bad to the point where they are telling us to bring family. They will make an exception for visitors (due to Covid) and allow us to all see her. He blood pressure has just dropped too much. I had to have someone drive me home because I was just shaking so much. I’m goin got the hospital within the hour to say my final goodbyes. I might make a gofundme possibly because we have no funds for a funeral. I may have to get a loan but with my school tuition and my inability to work I’m not sure how I’ll be able to get by with my sister. I may make a whole new post after as this one is getting lengthy.
Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. My mom fought leukemia for two years. She had her ups and downs. In the end, she wanted to live for me and my sister. Despite having a hard life my mom was just dealt a bad hand. I hope if she can read this she knows that we will always love her. And that even strangers who didn’t know her offered their love and support.
Thank you again everyone